Here’s a question someone asked about prostate sensitivity:
Does training the PC muscle actually help a man experience prostate orgasms? I have read tutorials on Prostate orgasm that say men should do PC muscle exercises (Kegels) first to improve prostate sensitivity. I have been doing this for months now and I only feel my PC muscle has more strength, other than that i don’t really feel anything.
Does it really help or am I doing something wrong?
You’re not necessarily doing anything wrong. Here are some things to consider and explore.
Orgasmic Contractions in Men
During an orgasm, the pelvic muscles contract and release (spasm) at a fast rate. This is involuntary. Two things make it different from voluntarily clenching and releasing the muscles. First, male orgasmic contractions are faster than it’s possible to do with conscious control. Second, the muscles fully relax between contractions.
At it’s most basic, orgasm is just rapid muscle contraction. This is true for both genital orgasm, prostate and anal orgasms and full body orgasm in men, and also in women.
PC Muscle Training (Kegels) for Prostate Sensitivity
You did not mentiion what you are doing, specifically, to train the PC muscle. It’s the muscle you use to stop the flow of urine midstream.
If you’re not sure, the next time you urinate, stop and start the flow several times to find the muscle. This is the muscle you want to clench and release, though it’s best to not regularly stop the flow of urine midstream.
Second, it’s best that you be able to clench the PC muscle without clenching your anal sphincter (asshole muscle). Since the muscles are all connected in the pelvis, many people have a hard time separating the muscles and learning to clench only the PC muscle, but it’s possible with practice. It may not be absolutely essential to separate them, but can help.
To train the PC muscle to improve your chances of a prostate orgasm, you want to clench and release the PC muscle. The fun part of this is you can do it anytime even waiting in line at the grocery store because no one will know. Any sequence or set of repetitions that strengthens the muscle can be helpful. However, it’s best to fully relax the muscle between clenches since this mimics the orgasmic response.
A stronger PC muscle does not directly cause more prostate sensitivity or pleasure. Nor will it directly cause a prostate orgasm. Still it does serve an important role. A stronger PC muscle allows your orgasmic contractions to be more intense, to last longer, or both. Since you said you’ve noticed the muscle is stronger, you are well on your way.
Variations in Prostate Sensitivity
Next, it’s important to understand that some men feel their prostate more than others. Many enjoy it but not everyone does. Sensitivity to touch and pressure can also vary in the perianal region (the skin surrounding the anus, in the anal cleft and perineum), or even throughout the whole pelvis.
People have varying degrees of awareness and sensitivity to touch. Some are very sensitive to even the slightest sensation and touch while others are less so. Some get more pleasure from it while others less so. This can be a relatively straightforward and more easily addressed issue of how the brain has processed past habits and behavior patterns (neuroplasticity) or it can be more complex, perhaps due to physical anhedonia.
The Paradox of a Prostate Orgasm
Your question seems to convey some frustration with not having had a prostate orgasm, or not having experienced something as pleasurable as you expected.
It’s important to understand that a prostate orgasm is not something you can make happen, like you can a penile orgasm (cock orgasm). Your frustration might come from trying too hard.
A prostate orgasm is something you cannot directly cause. You can only create the conditions that make it likely to happen. Then you allow it to happen. You relax deeply and let yourself feel whatever pleasure is there.
The more you think about “where is it?” and “when is that prostate orgasm coming?” the less likely you will be to have one. Learn to relax your mind so you have no distracting thoughts. (This is one of the wonderful benefits of meditation practice.) Focus on nothing but feeling the pleasure that is in your body right at that moment.
Take lots of time and practice. Let go of the goal of a prostate orgasm to make it more likely to happen.
The more you try hard to make it happen on a schedule, when you want it to happen, the more elusive it will be. Instead just pay attention to what feels good and let a prostate orgasm surprise you.
Garden Metaphor for Prostate Pleasure
Here’s a helpful metaphor. If you have a garden and plant tomatoes, cucumbars, lettuce and carrots, you can only control the conditions but you can’t rush their growing. Make sure you have good soil, the right amount of sunshine and water. You can take away the bugs and weeds, too. Make a fence to keep animals away that want eat them before their grown big enough.
But if you go out to the garden each day and dig the vegetables up to look at how much they grew since yesterday, you may likely ruin them. Even if you carefully replant them each day, they may not grow at all.
Prostate Sensitivity, PC Muscles and Anal Orgasm
Stronger PC muscles via Kegel exercises can help intensify the sensations of orgasm, but they do not directly cause a prostate orgasm. Make sure to find the right muscle and isolate the PC muscle so it is the only muscle you clench. Also, relax it fully between each clench.
Remember that you cannot directly make a prostate orgasm happen. The only thing you can do is to create good conditions so that it a lot more likely to happen.
Relax fully Feel the pleasure that is there. Focus your thoughts on your body’s sensations. Let yourself enjoy it rather than wondering when you will have a prostate orgasm.