What if you could relax and be carried away by the river of orgasm?
so you can be
If you listen to how people talk, you’d think sex was a lot of hard work.
Make it happen.
Get it on.
Please my partner.
Rub and tug.
Get to orgasm.
As if that’s not good enough, there are all sorts of devices sold claiming to make it better – lotions, toys, vibrators, electrostimulation and more.
All this effort can lead to muscle tension.
Tense muscles inhibit pleasure.
Get it just right.
Men, especially, often learn at an early age to rush, to force their orgasm. The phrase “rub one out” sums that up neatly.
I’ve heard women tell of making it happen.
Touch, rub, stroke.
In just the right place,
in just the right way,
at the precise time, and
at the right speed.
The thinking is if you can’t make sure it happens, you’ve failed.
Then, too, you may work to get your partner to orgasm.
Sometimes, I hear both women and men talking about sex as if they were a stressed family member trying to get grandma’s most complicated recipe just perfect for 37 relatives to eat at Christmas dinner.
Grandma’s gravy or pie may have been wonderful, but making it just exactly as she did 30 years ago can be stressful.
What if, instead, you just relaxed?
Feel your body.
Bask in all the pleasure you can notice.
Make things slow, and easy.
If you have a partner, look in their eyes.
Deeply relaxed muscles will spasm longer during orgasm. (After all, you
won’t have tired them out with all that effort to get there.)
Rather than trying to reach orgasm, let it find you.
If you create time and space to linger, it will.
Sometimes fast, sometimes not so quick.
How about lingering and feeling the pleasure that’s already there until orgasm finds you.
Take the time to be in the moment.
Set aside everything that might distract you.
Including trying so hard to have the perfect orgasm.
Let go of goals and agendas, even the goal of your own or your partner’s orgasm.
Don’t try. Just enjoy your body.
Let orgasm find you rather than chasing after it.
If you ever swam in a river, you know you can swim your way downriver.
You might get there faster.
Or you can let the river carry you.
Enjoy the scenery, the water,
the sun and the breeze.
A river is like an orgasm.
You can rush downstream, anxious to get there as fast as possible.
Or you can enjoy letting the river carry you along.
Of course, men and women’s bodies are different.
Wise women have said the most powerful orgasms are ones you relax into rather than something you can do, or make happen.
This is true for men, too. Especially men interested in male multiple orgasm.
The idea may go against past experience, or not even seem logical to some guys.
But, it’s worth experimenting with.
Besides, there are so many things you work hard at.
How about crossing sex off the to do list and take orgasm off the “must accomplish” list?
Instead, put sexy body pleasure time (with self or a partner) on your “to be” and “to enjoy” list.
Try it as an experiment.
Let the river carry you.
Sometimes it may be slow and gentle.
Other times it will be a strong current washing over you, again and again, carrying you with it.
Let yourself enjoy it all.
Feel your body.
Enjoy what happens.