Hi, I’m Mark Davian a relationship coach and sex educator for sex positive people and erotic explorers. I also focus on embodiment, wellbeing, life coaching and helping people to create a life they can truly love.
This page is an informal introduction. You’ll find a link at the end for a longer, more formal overview.
Sex Positive Writing
I have been working with people one on one to support their wellbeing, happiness and success since 1990. Since then I’ve led more than 250 groups, classes and workshops.
In 2004, I began focused sex positive work in the area of sex, intimacy and relationships.
I’ve worked with thousands of clients helping them to find their best next steps to reach their goals..
Many people have told me they love the articles, resources and email newsletters I’ve been creating and sending out since 2004, and have been helped by them.
I aim to write and teach about a variety of topics from a sex positive viewpoint, including shame-free sexuality, dating, relationships, erotic massage, Tantra and tantric sex, anal sex, BDSM, fetish and kink as well as wellbeing, confidence, self-esteem and happiness. While most of what I write and teach applies to all genders and sexual orientations, I sometimes focus on men’s bodies, partners & concerns, sexual orientation, LGBT concerns.
As an adventurous guy who has been in relationships with both men and women, I try to make things as broadly relevant as possible for all genders and sexual orientations. This makes Beyond Intimacy stand out since many sex positive websites have a strong hetero-monogamous flavor that is unwelcoming to those who identify outside the mainstream monogamous and or heterosexual mold.
Thus, there may be some specialized topics that do not interest every single person. I write those specialized materials based on a need, and often a lack of good material elsewhere.
How My Vision Informs Coaching and Writing
My vision is one of inclusive, affordable resources for all.
I offer private intimacy coaching for individuals and couples. Coaching is often the fastest way to reach your goals.
I’ve found that for some people it’s tough to pay for the sort of one on one help that could make a profound difference in their life. Others are uncomfortable in a group or workshop setting. They may be introverts, have a sensitive personality, cultural sensitivities to discussing relationships and sexuality in a group, or have experienced past trauma that makes such events difficult for them.
These are important reasons why I now focus a great deal of my time on writing and creating free and low cost self-study resources.
I’m grateful that many people have told me that reading these resources, articles, reports and emails over time has helped them improve their self-esteem, confidence and sexual happiness. For some I provided answers, explanations or guidance that they had been seeking for years.
Being an Erotic Explorer
Many people want to explore erotically while still having meaningful relationships. and connecting on a spiritual not just physical level. You may be one of them.
There can be many tricky obstacles to making this work. Part of this is practical knowledge about sex, the body, about relationships, and knowing yourself. In addition to the “how to” nuts and bolts there are often deeper issues, including mindset, guilt, shame, the impact of porn and social media.
Many, too, are curious yet feel blocked by guilt and shame. The online experience, both social media and porn, can be misleading. So often I see people go down paths that leave them spinning their wheels and not getting the results they want. Helping people who want to, to become successful, healhty and happy erotic explorers is a big part of my mission.
Our culture is confused about sex. The culture can leave each of us with guilt and shame that gets in the way of erotic fulfillment. In the interest of maintaining their power, many religious institutions have also, unfortunately, added to the shame and guilt we feel. While sometimes guilt or shame can be an aphrodisiac, most of the time for most of us it blocks us from pleasure and intimacy.
I’ve been an erotic explorer for most of my life, especially during the last 20 years. I’ve been in relationships with both men and women. Coming out of a shamed-based religious background with lots of guilt, I’ve found that healing is possible and learned a lot from my own epxeriences.
While I have a lot of professional training and experience, and what I teach has proven helpful for many, the deeper truth is that what I teach has been tested and proven through my own personal real life experiences.
You’re invited to join me and a growing community of readers and learners as we create the intimacy, pleasure and wellbeing that we each long for and deserve.
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