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The Beyond Intimacy reader community is sex positive and interested in conscious intimacy, erotic exploration, healthy relationships, meaningful sex and intimacy. We seek sex positive voices and perspectives. We welcome and value your unique insights, stories and expertise.
Our reader community is composed of all genders and sexual orientations. The majority is men and their partners of all genders. This means we primarily seek content that is applicable regardless of sexual orientation, though we do occasionally publish content written for one specific sexual orientation.
Before you submit articles or other content like videos, handouts or slideshows, please read our Submission Guidelines. They describe the kinds of content our editors will accept (and perhaps even feature!) on Beyond Intimacy.
Guest Blogging Submission Guidelines
These guidelines apply to all content submitted to Beyond Intimacy. The editors may decline your submission if it does not follow all guidelines. You can always contact us if you’re unclear about any guidelines or communication you receive from us, but guidelines are interpreted at editors’ discretion.
We do not expect everyone who writes a guest post for us to share 100% of our values. However, the tone, message and choice of pronouns in your writing should reflect respect of these values and our audience rather than standing in direct conflict to them.
- Sex Positive
- Pleasure is a Healing Force
- Conscious Intimacy
- Embodiment and Body-Mind Integration
- Exploration, Experimentation and Self-Discovery
- Relationship Minded
- Supportive yet Challenging (a Coach Like Approach)
- Inclusive and Accepting
- Affirming of Sexual and Gender Minorities including especially the LGBTQ, BDSM-Leather-Fetish, and Polyamory communities.
- Partial emphasis on men and their partners of any sexual orientation (This more an acknowledgement than a value. This group is the largest part of our readership.)
You can read more about our values here.
We especially seek information about relationships and sexuality issues including alternative sexual and relationship expressions. We also publish material on well being including self-confidence, self-esteem and other wellness topics.
Before listing our most common topics it’s important to say that one thing that sets Beyond Intimacy apart is our inclusiveness. Most of our content is neutral with respect to sexual orientation and as much as is practical with regard to gender – unless there is a special reason to approach it differently.
This means you could write sharing your perspective as a woman being in a relationship with a man, but be careful to not make assumptions about the gender of the reader who is in relationship with a man. Or you might write offering tips for touching a man’s body, but don’t make assumptions about the gender of a reader who wants to learn to touch a man’s body more skillfully. If you’re want to do this but find the pronouns confusing, reach out and ask us for help. Yes, grammar is important and there is a limit to how much we can help, but we’re more interested in your intention than perfection.
We encourage you to share your own experiences and to be as specific as you like about your own experiences while being respectful that the reader may be different than you.
We welcome insights and observations about differences between men and women’s experiences as well as between different sexual orientations. We do ask for mindful caution. We want to avoid excessive generalization and stereotypee based on gender, orientation or other characteristics (e.g. men are from Mars, women are from Venus or gay men and straight women enjoy anal sex but straight men don’t, etc.).
Within this framework we especially seek articles and content on the following topics
- Sexuality – all aspects including consent, erotic fulfillment, mindset, and more (see below for core subtopics)
- Anal Sex & Anal Pleasure
- BDSM, Fetish & Kink
- Erectile Dysfunction and erection problems (whether it meets medical diagnostic criteria or not).
- Erotic Massage & Sensual Touch
- Prostate Massage & Pleasure
- Monogamy, polyamory, ethical nonmonogamy, casual sex and alternate relationship models, including guidelines for making choices and making it work.
- Premature Ejaculation or early ejaculation, whether it meets diagnostic criteria or not.
- Tantra & Tantric Sex and Sacred Sexuality
- Wellness & Wellbeing (including but not limited to confidence, self-esteem, mindfulness, happiness, success and related topics)
- LGBTQ issues and concerns**
- for Professionals (topics of interest to Relationship Coaches & Sex Educators)
** While most of our content applies to all genders and sexual orientations we recognize that certain sexual and gender minorities (especially LGBTQ individuals and the BDSM and polyamory communities) have been marginalized and for many decades did not have access to adequate, helpful and knowledgeable educational resources. While this has begun to change, we want to provide a space for material that is shame-free and competent in addressing their unique concerns, because such resources are still much too rare.
Writing and Formatting Guidelines
Submit only original content written by you. Please do not submit material previously published elsewhere unless we have specifically invited you to do so. We ask that you wait at least 90 days after we have published your accepted content before re-publishing it anywhere else online.
By submitting content you accept our terms and conditions. You acknowledge and agree that you have willingly granted us perpetual nonexclusive permission to have the work re-published and re-publish in any or multiple media format(s) now and in the future, free or for a fee. The promotion you receive by being published on Beyond Intimacy is your compensation. You acknowledge and agree there is no payment for accept submissions. You will retain copyright to your work and we will provide an acknowledgement of your byline when we publish and re-publish your material.
Our preferred article length is 1,000 words. We do accept other lengths (750 to 2,500 words) based on their quality, relevance to our audience and at our discretion. Other material such as presentations, handouts, video, audio or checklists will be considered at our discretion.
Format articles in text with a blank line between paragraphs for entry into the submission form. This eases compatibility and insertion into WordPress. Do not use ALL CAPS. You may use markdown but if you do, please make a note of this above your article.
Follow AP Style guidelines regarding numbers, capitalization, abbreviations, and punctuation with the following exceptions. Instead of an en dash or em dash, simply use a hyphen with one space on each side of it.
To ensure compatibility with WordPress make sure there is a blank line between every paragraph. Do not use a paragraph indent
Avoid these common writing mistakes
- Avoid cliches like the plague.
- Avoid beginning sentences with “Look,” “Listen,” “You see,” or “Now.”
- Avoid rhetorical questions. This means questions that cannot be answered or do not need an answer. (Examples include “Why do we keep trying?” and “Why is the Pope Catholic?”)
- Avoid adverbs, exaggeration and squishy, meaningless adjectives, like “quite,” “somewhat,” and “interesting.”
If you include photos, images or artwork with your content, you must own the actual art, or have an explicit, written license to publish it on a website you do not own. We reserve the right to substitute our own (or no) images, especially if we cannot prove rights ownership. All videos or audio included with the work must have an embed code.
Be yourself: authentic and unique. It should always be clear that your content comes from YOU, and that no one else in the world could have created it. Find your voice. Submit content on topics that you’re passionate, knowledgeable, and insightful about. Use the first-person voice when appropriate, and make clear in your content how your personal experiences inform your statements and topic choices. Always offer unique insight that differentiates your content from other pieces on the Web.
Be relevant, informative, in depth, useful, and engaging. Imagine that you are a reader searching for information on your intended topic. What information do you need to be not only satisfied, but thrilled with the resource you chose? Make sure that each piece of content is written to thoroughly inform and/or delight its intended audience. Since we place a priority on helpful and informative material, in most cases we will not accept “listicles” or list posts like “15 Life-Changing Tips about X.”
Proofread. Proofread. Proofread. We do not expect perfection but the editors reserve the right to refuse to publish content that has errors in grammar, structure, spelling and punctuation.
Provide a strong, descriptive headline (and subheads). Your headline need not be perfect, but it should summarize your content succinctly and tell people why they should read it. Your article should deliver on the promise made in the headline. Avoid clever headlines that hint at a topic without explaining it—humor can be a great asset, but it belongs in the body of the article.
Be accurate, and cite your sources. Any information you provide that is neither common knowledge nor clearly established as something you’ve personally experienced must be drawn from a credible, cited source.
Provide full disclosure. When you submit a review or commentary, you must disclose any special relationship or material connection to your subject. You can make the disclosure in the body of your content or at the end. In many cases, disclosure is is the law.
Follow editorial instructions. Editors’ specific instructions can override any of the above. If you receive an assignment or a direct instruction from an editor that seems to conflict with the general Submission Guidelines, the editor’s instructions take priority. Email us if you need clarification.
Avoid excessive generalization and stereotypes. Yes, we are all different and yet have similarities. It’s useful sometimes to generalize and to acknowledge you’re doing so. In moderation, please! Your topics should usually be highly specific as this will prevent this problem.
Content we won’t publish or link to includes anything threatening, obscene, defamatory, or abusive; hate speech; anything that encourages illegal or discriminatory conduct; anything containing potentially offensive generalizations about a group of people; anything that promotes online gambling sites; anything that infringes on the rights of a third party; anything that constitutes or encourages cyber-bullying. This list is not exhaustive. (We recognize that many of these factors are subjective, but in order to maintain a library of great content that’s safe for all Web readers, we will apply these standards at our sole discretion, as necessary.)
Don’t rant. We welcome your authentic personal perspective, but we ask you to avoid using an extremely negative tone. Criticism should be thoughtful and measured, should make clear distinctions between nuances of meaning, opinion and fact and should cite sources when appropriate.
Don’t over-link. We encourage relevant links that make your content more valuable and informative. It’s helpful to include links to other content on Beyond Intimacy and content elsewhere. Avoid excessive hyperlinking that compromises readability. Links to external sites must be relevant to the content and must not lead readers to any content forbidden by these guidelines.
Don’t over-promote. We welcome your genuine enthusiasm for the things you love, but if your content reads more like an advertisement or press release than thoughtful firsthand insight, it’s not for us. We don’t publish content that is primarily intended to sell something, build backlinks, or drive traffic to other websites (including your own). Highly relevant links to personal websites are appropriate if, and only if, they add to the usefulness and authority of your content and do not come across as jarring self-promotion. Affiliate links (links that result in compensation to you or an affiliated party in the form of sales, clicks, memberships, visits, etc.) are prohibited.
Submit your article. Now that you know what’s expected, submit your article here.
Important: Please note that you must agree – say YES on the form – to all of the Rights and Responsibilities or we will be unable to accept your submitted content, no matter how good it is.
Please make sure to save a copy of your material to your computer before submitting it. While failure of the article submission form is unlikely, your having a backup copy is a good idea.